FOSEL: Friends of the South End Library

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The Boston Public Library Has Purchased More Than 2,400 Books on Grieving and Anxiety to Help Adults and Children Cope With the Trauma and Loss After the Marathon Bombings

Books on Grieving for Children

At a budget hearing before the Boston City Council earlier this month, BPL president Amy Ryan told the councilors that the library purchased more than 2,000 books on coping with anxiety, grieving and loss after the Marathon bombings. In addition, even though the main library at Copley Square was forced to close for a week due to its close proximity to the bombing site, all the 25 branches were open the next day. "They were crowded," reported Ryan. "People were busy checking in with one another. Libraries are community spaces." According to Catherine Willis, Chief of Technical and Digital Services at the BPL, a total of 2,410 books were ordered on the subject of loss and anxiety. The cost for the books would have been more than $30,000 but the vendor gave the BPL a 'sizeable' discount to bring the final amount down to around $15,000. The books have begun to arrive at libraries throughout the system, including the South End Library.

South End Library's children's librarian Margaret Gardner collected several links for library patrons, including:

1. Tips for parents and teachers on how to deal with children's fear of war and terrorism from the National Association of School Psychologists (NASP)

2. Talking to children about violence, also by NASP

3. Talking with kids about news, sponsored by PBS Parents

4. Times of Grief and Sadnessa list of 19 books for children from the BPL web site's Boston PL Kids Lists.

Gardner told FOSEL that kids and teens who have been at the South End branch since the bombings have expressed themselves through art, which she plans to continue to do. Two teens created  "the dove of peace" in the front window facing Tremont Street the first week after the bombing, and another teen artist made the two doves of peace by the circulation counter, with hand prints and words from younger children.

Below is the full list of the BPL's books that are, or will soon be arriving at a library near you, and the number of copies available.

ADULT:

Aikman, Becky. Saturday night widows : the adventures of six friends remaking their lives

Albano, Anne Marie. You and your anxious child : free your child from fears and worries and create a joyful family life

Amend, Allison. A nearly perfect copy : a novel

Askew, Rilla. Kind of kin

Backhaus, Jeff. Hikikomori and the rental sister : a novel

Bacon, Armen. Griefland : an intimate portrait of love, loss, and unlikely friendship

Bateman, Tracey Victoria. The widow of Saunders Creek : a novel

Baudrillard, Jean The Spirit of Terrorism : And Other Essays

Beattie, Melody. The grief club : the secret to getting through all kinds of change

Bedford, Lisa. Survival mom : how to prepare your family for everyday disasters and worst-case scenarios

Berger, Susan A. The five ways we grieve : finding your personal path to healing after the loss of a loved one

Bessette, Alicia. A pinch of love

Bien, Thomas. The Buddha's Way of Happiness : healing sorrow, transforming negative emotion & finding well-being in the present moment

Blaustein, Margaret. Treating traumatic stress in children and adolescents : how to foster resilience through attachment, self-regulation, and competency

Brach, Tara. True refuge : finding peace and freedom in your own awakened heart

Brantley, Jeffrey. Calming your anxious mind : how mindfulness & compassion can free you from anxiety, fear, & panic

Brown, Erica, 1966- Happier endings : overcoming the fear of death

Bstan-Êdzin-rgya-mtsho, Dalai Lama XIV, 1935- The wisdom of compassion : stories of remarkable encounters and timeless insights

Burns, Donna M. When kids are grieving : addressing grief and loss in school

Chansky, Tamar Ellsas. Freeing your child from anxiety : powerful, practical strategies to overcome your child's fears, phobias, and worries

Chödrön, Pema. Comfortable with uncertainty : 108 teachings on cultivating fearlessness and compassion

Chödrön, Pema. The places that scare you : a guide to fearlessness in difficult times

Chödrön, Pema. When things fall apart : heart advice for difficult times

Chopra, Deepak. God : a story of Revelation

Cloyed, Deborah. The summer we came to life

Coetzee, J. M., 1940- Slow man

Cohen, Judith A. Treating trauma and traumatic grief in children and adolescents / A Clinician's Guide

Cohen, Leah Hager. The grief of others

Cooper, Gwen, 1971- Love saves the day : a novel

Cope, Pam. Jantsen's gift : a true story of grief, rescue, and grace

Dahlie, Michael. The best of youth : a novel

De Becker, Gavin. The gift of fear : survival signals that protect us from violence

De Feo, Ronald. Solo pass

Deits, Bob, 1933- Life after loss : a practical guide to renewing your life after experiencing major loss

Deraniyagala, Sonali. Wave

Didion, Joan. The year of magical thinking

Dreher, Rod. The little way of Ruthie Leming : a Southern girl, a small town, and the secret of a good life

Dunn, Bill. Through a season of grief : devotions for your journey from mourning to joy

Ellmann, Lucy, 1956- Mimi : a novel

Emerson, David, 1969- Overcoming trauma through yoga : reclaiming your body

Ericsson, Stephanie, 1953- Companion through the darkness : inner dialogues on grief

Evans, Richard Paul. The road to grace

Frankl, Viktor E. (Viktor Emil), 1905-1997. Man's search for meaning

Frazier, Ian. The cursing mommy's book of days

Friedman, Russell. Moving beyond loss : real answers to real questions from real people

Gaiman, Neil. Fragile things : short fictions and wonders

Gewirtz, Matthew D. The gift of grief : finding peace, transformation, and renewed life after great sorrow

Gil, Eliana Working with children to heal interpersonal trauma : the power of play

Gilbert, Kellie Coates. Mother of Pearl

Goldman, Linda, 1946- Great answers to difficult questions about death : what children need to know

Gonzales, Laurence, 1947- Surviving survival : the art and science of resilience

Gordon, Terry A. No storm lasts forever : transforming suffering into insight

Greenspan, Miriam. Healing through the dark emotions : the wisdom of grief, fear, and despair

Greenwood, T. (Tammy) The hungry season

Guthrie, Nancy O love that will not let me go : facing death with courageous confidence in God

Hall, Louisa, 1982- The carriage house : a novel

Hance, Jackie. I'll see you again : a memoir

Henkin, Joshua. The world without you

Hickman, Martha Whitmore, 1925- Healing after loss : daily meditations for working through grief

Higgins, Lisa Verge. The proper care and maintenance of friendship

Hinton, J. Lynne. Welcome back to Pie Town

Hodges, Samuel J Grieving with hope : finding comfort as you journey through loss

Holland, Debra. The essential guide to grief and grieving

Hunter, John, 1954- author. World peace and other 4th-grade achievements

Isaacs, Florence. My deepest sympathies : meaningful sentiments for condolence notes, plus a guide to eulogies

Jacobson, Don When God makes lemonade : true stories that amaze and encourage

James, John W. The grief recovery handbook : the action program for moving beyond death, divorce, and other losses including health career, and faith

James, John W. When children grieve : for adults to help children deal with death, divorce, pet loss, moving, and other losses

Kabat-Zinn, Jon. Wherever you go, there you are : mindfulness meditation in everyday life

Kimball, Michael, 1967- Big Ray : a novel

King, Claire, 1980- The Night Rainbow

Kinkade, Thomas, 1958-2012. A wandering heart

Klein, Daniel M. Nothing serious : a novel

Kolf, June Cerza. When will I stop hurting? : dealing with a recent death

Kornfield, Jack The Art Of Forgiveness, Lovingkindess, And Peace

Krueger, William Kent. Ordinary grace : a novel

Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. On death and dying : what the dying have to teach doctors, nurses, clergy, and their own families

Kübler-Ross, Elisabeth. On grief and grieving : finding the meaning of grief through the five stages of loss

Kultgen, Chad, 1976- The average American marriage : a novel

Kumar, Sameet M. Grieving mindfully : a compassionate and spiritual guide to coping with loss

Kushner, Harold S. The book of Job : when bad things happened to a good person

Kushner, Harold S. When bad things happen to good people

Lankford, Adam, 1979- The myth of martyrdom : what really drives suicide bombers, rampage shooters, and other self-destructive killers

Latiolais, Michelle. Widow : stories

Lavigne, Michael. The wanting

Lee, Ashton. The Cherry Cola Book Club

Lee, Deborah. The compassionate-mind guide to recovering from trauma and PTSD : using compassion-focused therapy to overcome flashbacks, shame, guilt, and fear

Lee, Linda Francis. Emily and Einstein / A Novel of Second Chances

Levine, Peter A. Trauma-proofing your kids : a parents' guide for instilling confidence, joy and resilience

Levine, Peter A. Waking the tiger : healing trauma : the innate capacity to transform overwhelming experiences

Lewis, C. S. (Clive Staples), 1898-1963. A grief observed

Malchiodi, Cathy A. The art therapy sourcebook

Marasco, Ron. About grief : insights, setbacks, grace notes, taboos

Martin, John D. I can't stop crying : it's so hard when someone you love dies

Martinez, J. Michael (James Michael) Terrorist attacks on American soil : from the Civil War era to the present

Matta, Christy. The stress response : how dialectical behavior therapy can free you from needless anxiety, worry, anger, & other symptoms of stress

Miller, Serena, 1950- Hidden mercies : a novel

Milliken, Maureen. The afterlife survey : a Rabbi, a CEO, a dog walker, and others on the universal question - what comes next?

Nhá̂t H?anh, Thích Anger : wisdom for cooling the flames

Nhá̂t H?anh, Thích. Fear : essential wisdom for getting through the storm

Nugent, Benjamin. Good kids : a novel

Odell, Jonathan, 1951- The healing : a novel

Orange, Cynthia. Shock waves : a practical guide to living with a loved one's PTSD

Paisley, Michelle Yoga for a Broken Heart : A Spiritual Guide to Healing from Break-Up, Loss, Death or Divorce

Peretti, Frank E. Illusion : a novel

Podrug, Junius. The disaster survival bible

Punnett, Ian, 1960- How to pray when you're pissed at God / Or Anyone Else for That Matter

Quick, Matthew, 1973- The silver linings playbook

Rando, Therese A. How to go on living when someone you love dies

Raney, Deborah. After all

Rapp, Emily. The still point of the turning world

Rathkey, Julia Wilcox. What children need when they grieve : the four essentials : routine, love, honesty, and security

Ratner, Austin. In the land of the living : a novel

Ritchie, Cinthia. Dolls behaving badly : a novel

Rogers, Michael Allen, 1949- What happens after I die?

Rothbaum, Barbara Olasov. Reclaiming your life from a traumatic experience : workbook

Rothschild, Babette. Trauma essentials : the go-to guide

Rupp, Joyce. My soul feels lean : poems of loss and restoration

Scheunemann, Frauke. Puppy love

Schonfeld, David J., 1959- The grieving student : a teacher's guide

Schrank, Ben. Love is a canoe

Schuster, Marc, 1973- The grievers

Simons, Paullina, 1963- Children of liberty

Smith, Haywood, 1949- Out of warranty

Smolinski, Jill. Objects of my affection

Sorensen, Julia. Overcoming loss : activities and stories to help transform children's grief and loss

Spencer, Elizabeth DuPont, 1966- The anxiety cure for kids : a guide for parents

Spencer, Katherine, 1955- The Way Home : Thomas Kinkade's Angel Island

Stahl, Bob. Calming the rush of panic : a mindfulness-based stress reduction guide to freeing yourself from panic attacks & living a vital life

Stavlund, Mike. A force of will : the reshaping of faith in a year of grief

Stearns, Ann Kaiser. Living through personal crisis

Stern, Robin. Project rebirth : survival and the strength of the human spirit from 9/11 survivors

Stewart, Carla. Broken wings : a novel

Stothard, Anna. The pink hotel

Sussman, Ellen, 1954- The Paradise Guest House : a novel

Tappouni, Therese Amrhein The Gifts of Grief : Finding Light in the Darkness of Loss

Thoene, Bodie, 1951- When Jesus wept

Tipping, Colin C Radical forgiveness : a revolutionary five-stage process to : heal relationships, let go of anger and blame, find peace in any situation

Tirch, Dennis D., 1968- The compassionate-mind guide to overcoming anxiety : using compassion-focused therapy to calm worry, panic, and fear

Trout, Nick. The patron saint of lost dogs

Welshons, John E. Awakening from grief : finding the way back to joy

West, Spencer, 1981- Standing tall : my journey

Westberg, Granger E Good Grief

Westfall, John. Getting past what you'll never get over : help for dealing with life's hurts

Whitson, Stephanie Grace. The message on the quilt

Wilde, Samantha. I'll take what she has : a novel

Wilder, Thornton, 1897-1975. The bridge of San Luis Rey

Williams, Mark. Mindfulness : an eight-week plan for finding peace in a frantic world

Williams, Mary Beth. The PTSD workbook / Simple, Effective Techniques for Overcoming Traumatic Stress Symptoms

Wiseman, John "Lofty" SAS Urban Survival Handbook : How to Protect Yourself Against Terrorism, Natural Disasters, Fires, Home Invasions, and Everyday Health and Safety Hazards

Wolf, Elaine. Danny's mom : a novel

Wolfelt, Alan D. The Mourner's Book of Faith : 30 Days of Enlightenment

Wolfelt, Alan D., Ph.D. The Mourner's Book of Courage : 30 Days of Encouragemen

Wolfelt, Alan. Healing your grieving heart : 100 practical ideas

Wolfelt, Alan. The wilderness of grief : finding your way

Wong, David, 1975 Jan. 10- This book is full of spiders : seriously, dude, don't touch it

Yancey, Philip Where Is God When It Hurts?

Yancey, Philip. Disappointment with God : three questions no one asks aloud

Yang, Jeffrey Time of grief : mourning poems

Chicken soup for the soul : grieving and recovery : 101 inspirational and comforting stories about surviving the loss of a loved one

Life after trauma : a workbook for healing

Poems of mourning

Alcorn, Randy C. Heaven for kids

CHILD/TEEN

Aliki Feelings

Annunziata, Jane Sometimes I'm scared

Applegate, Katherine. The one and only Ivan

Arnold, Elana K. Sacred

Bergren, Lisa Tawn. God gave us heaven

Blos, Joan W. A gathering of days : a novel

Bodeen, S. A. (Stephanie A.), 1965- The raft

Brody, Jessica. Unremembered

Brown, Laurene Krasny. When dinosaurs die : a guide to understanding deat

Bunting, Eve, 1928- Rudi's pond

Burpo, Todd. Heaven is for real for kids

Buscaglia, Leo F. The fall of Freddie the leaf : a story of life for all ages

Cassidy, Sara. Windfall

Coker, Rachel. Interrupted : a life beyond words

Cook, Julia Grief is Like a Snowflake

Cormier, Robert. After the first death

Crist, James J. What to do when you're scared & worried : a guide for kids

Crowe, Carole. Waiting for dolphins

Emberley, Ed. Glad monster, sad monster : a book about feelings

Eubanks, Sonja Death and dying

Fitzgerald, Helen. The grieving teen : a guide for teenagers and their friends

Fritts, Mary Bahr, 1946- If Nathan were here

Geithner, Carole. If only

Goldman, Linda, 1946- Children also grieve : talking about death and healing

Gootman, Marilyn E., 1944- When a friend dies : a book for teens about grieving & healing

Graff, Lisa (Lisa Colleen), 1981- Umbrella summer

Guanci, Anne Marie. David and the worry beast : helping children cope with anxiety

Hainsworth, Emily. Through to you

Hanson, Warren. The next place

Heegaard, Marge When Someone Very Special Dies : Children Can Learn to Cope With Grief

Heegaard, Marge When Something Terrible Happens : Children Learn to Cope With Grief

Holmes, Margaret M., 1944 A terrible thing happened

Huebner, Dawn. What to do when you worry too much : a kid's guide to overcoming anxiety

Kaplow, Julie B., 1974- Samantha Jane's missing smile : a story about coping with the loss of a parent

Klise, Kate. Little Rabbit and the Night Mare

LaFleur, Suzanne M. Love, Aubrey

Laybourne, Emmy. Monument 14

Lewis, Beverly, 1949- What is God like?

Lewis, Stewart. You have seven messages

Loewen, Nancy, 1964- Saying good-bye to Uncle Joe : what to expect when someone you love dies

Loth, Sebastian. Remembering Crystal

Lowry, Lois. A summer to die

Martin, Ann M., 1955- Welcome to Camden Falls

Mayfield, Sue. Living with bereavement

Meiners, Cheri J., 1957- When I feel afraid

Mellonie, Bryan. Lifetimes : the beautiful way to explain death to children

Mills, Joyce C., 1944- Gentle Willow : a story for children about dying

Myers, Edward, 1950- Teens, loss, and grief : the ultimate teen guide

O'Brien, Anne Sibley. A path of stars

Palmer, Pat, 1928- I wish I could hold your hand-- : a child's guide to grief and loss

Payne, Lauren Murphy, 1956- Just because I am : a child's book of affirmation

Penn, Audrey, 1947- The kissing hand

Penn, Audrey, 1947- Chester Raccoon and the acorn full of memories

Pennypacker, Sara, 1951- Stuart goes to school

Posesorski, Sherie. Shadow boxing

Rock, Lois, 1953- When good-bye is forever

Romain, Trevor. What on earth do you do when someone dies?

Romain, Trevor. Stress can really get on your nerves!

Rosen, Michael, 1946- Michael Rosen's sad book

Seuss, Dr. My many colored days

Shaw, Susan, 1951- One of the survivors

Spelman, Cornelia. When I miss you

Tangvald, Christine Harder, 1941- Someone I love died

Vail, Rachel. Sometimes I'm Bombaloo

Varley, Susan. Badger's parting gifts

Verdick, Elizabeth. How to take the grrrr out of anger

Vigna, Judith. Saying goodbye to Daddy

Violi, Jen. Putting makeup on dead people

Wagenbach, Debbie. The grouchies

Wild, Margaret, 1948- Harry & Hopper

Wilhelm, Hans, 1945- I'll always love you

Winsch, Jane Loretta. After the funeral

Wolfelt, Alan. Healing your grieving heart for teens : 100 practical ideas

Wolff, Ferida, 1946- Is a worry worrying you?